Well damm that sucks
And number 2
I think I see the lil hairs I hope I’m seeing the lil hairs looking a lil different then her brother
I hate that for ya but it dose happen to us all at one point or another.
But any Welcome to ILGM . here is a few links that you can check out.
Your other plant is to young yet to tell either way yet.
Hope this helps
What you wanna see is white hairs (pistils).
My condolences on the dang a Lang