Try to find a way to get her to engage with the plants. In my case, my beloved is quite the craftist. Any time she puts ink to paper beauty comes out. So she created name tags for each of OUR ladies. Also, she collects rocks and gemstones so I looked up a list of some that are good for gardens and asked her to put crystal grid inside my tent…she went better, there is one inside EACH pot.
These alone were enough to get her involved, but also, she began seeing OUR grow, instead of MY grow. This carried over, she was concerned that I would not be gentle enough to do the LST work, I was at it for about 2 seconds before she ordered me out of her way, and TOOK OVER the training and defoileation. What did I do? Upgraded all of the LST gear I now have like 90 various sized 3d printed 90° plant benders, pro plant ties. I could tell by your post that, above all else, she MUST be satisfied in the end. Make it a point to include her as much as you can. Its awesome when your partner, partners with you. They go from plants to babies we talk to and wish good night. I have a Mars Hydro fc 3000 light and two ac infity t4 fans running last grow and I barely paid an extra dollar a day on my electric. Didn’t even notice the change on my bill.