@YinYang will you help me build my own private mini-golf course? Drill a couple holes here, a couple holes there, a few ramps, add some LED lighting, and Iām in business!
Well done on the thread @Enlightened420. It tackles a subject that is taboo. I think the hardest part is admitting to yourself that you have a problem. If you can get over that and get it out there then the rest kinda falls into place. Iāve helped so many of my friends get over things while that little voice in my own head screams to be heard. But I get comfort knowing that theyāre pulling through their own dark times which shines a light in my own dark corner. Well done man well done.
What exactly did you do to get help @YinYang? Iām the same way. No one knows that things are wrong, because I spend all of my time helping others, but I donāt allow myself the time to help me.
Itās sounds like youāve been conditioned and programmed to be some sort of service drone, free your mind first, the slave will followā¦
Was looking up Brian last night to see if I could find some of his material. Weāll talk about that later.
Let me catch up on the posts.
Thanks for the tag Brother, great overall topic and thank you for starting this
I found a good doctor for one. That was first and foremost. Not one who just dishes out medicines. Someone who believed in holistic care, and also in my ability to recover.
I did a course in Mindfulness meditation. That was six weeks with a commitment to meditate every day, regardless of whether I thought I was meditating or not. Bit by bit I began to heal. I stopped judging myself.
Its also worth pointing out that we are in a mental health epidemic. The values of our world arenāt terribly compatible with good mental health. It means that pretty much everyone is suffering from low level anxiety and depression at a minimum. Understanding this was really important, for me anyway.
Check out the School of Life YouTube, there are some really insightful ideas on there.
These kinds of insights helped me from being too hard on myself. We do often judge ourselves by unrealistic standards. How the Modern World Makes Us Mentally Ill - YouTube
Its a slow process and there are no overnight miracles in healing. In fact, things sometimes get worse before they get better. Thats why its important to find a doctor you can trust. This isnāt always as easy as it sounds, and it may take some time to find the right one for you. just donāt give up!
Haha only trouble is, I know nothing about golf!!!
Jeez @shatter I donāt know where to begin. Iām very well read. My mind couldnāt be more free. Your response was unhelpful, and unappreciated. Iād elaborate more, but this isnāt the place to tear you a new asshole.
I was speaking from experience, not ridicule, I respectfully digressā¦
All I know is in my life Iāve been dealt some very shitty cards. Ya know I tell myself things will get better but when? Just when I take two steps forward I take 3 more back. It all began April 2007 when my daughter diedā¦then boom Dec 2009 my son died as well and from that day forward my life has been an uphill battle.
Yāall we got this one day at a time
Iām very sorry to hear this, those are the hardest blows I could imagine. YOu are a very strong woman and an inspiration for just being you.
Iām so sorry for your losses. This is why I hate talking about my problems. Theyāre so trivial compared to other folkās problems.
I was thinking the same thing, feel like Iād be belly aching
No problem is ever just trivialā¦ we can get along by sharing and listening to others. One of the worst feeling in all that depression stuff and what not, is the feeling of being alone in the worldā¦imo.
@Kilgoretrout @Mote donāt look at it that way
Everyone has struggles some worse than others.
Very true, Iāll keep that in mind
I didnāt mean to make anyone feel like their problem was trivial sorry if I did. Just sharing about my depression and where it started.
No one took it like that at all I assure you. What are you doing these days to address your depression and how is it working?
Iām pretty sure you donāt have anything to do with that feelingā¦ It seems to be an in-built self-preservation mechanism that when you find somebody that has bigger issues than yours, you feel a bit better about yourself, thatās only human nature. The biggest hurdle in that way of thinking is that by sharing, some of us (falsely) think that we are adding our problems to the load of the listener and we hesitate to share or seek helpā¦ I donāt know if I make sense or notā¦
Took years to get me on the right depression meds. But it definitely has helped me getting on the right one. Ive definitely brought light to the situation Iām always trying to help somebody else. My heart is HUGE there is no end. Iām always here if anyone wants to talk.