I'll do my best, even though @Paranorman advises me against getting into religious conversation because of the strife it can generate.
I can agree with what you've stated here. I've read several of the books left out of the Bible. I revisit them still. The books of Enoch are of a great interest to me at the moment.
To me, religion is a tool that has been perverted to empower evil. I believe there is one Creator. He is my Father. He does not change. The "churches" change with the climate of society.
Even the work that we refer to as The Bible has been altered. There is a reason why the warning was given about adding to or taking away from the words. Those that are responsible won't be able to claim ignorance.
Whether she was his wife or not is not an issue for me. Jesus was without sin, which simply means he never broke a single law given to Moses. Being married wouldn't change anything. Remember, we were told to be fruitful and multiply.
Tradition says she was the whore that Jesus rescued from stoning. It could well be possible that he married her, after she was forgiven as another sign of his authority to forgive sins as our High Priest. Again, it doesn't change that he was blameless and the pure blood sacrifice.
Why change the calendar all those times? Why lie about the shape of the Earth? Why lie about the origin of life?
Lies are told to manipulate and control. You DO deserve to know the truth. Look for it as if everything depends on it. The truth is everywhere. You just have to sort it out from the lies that surround it.
Question everything you have been taught. Search and you will find...